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NLP Business Practitioner - dates for 2014  Published 4/9/2014 in Author Vievolve

'Leadership for the Future'

We are pleased to announce details of our fully accredited Business Practitioner programme - second to none in Europe for its depth, practicality and rigour.

Click here for full details of the 2014 course.

Achieving Excellence  Published 3/7/2014 in Author Vievolve

Announcing new dates for our NLP Diploma course.

This course provides an unrivalled opportunity to develop highly effective communication tools and interpersonal skills that are invaluable in today’s fast-moving and competitive business environment – creating the additional ‘edge’ needed for increased success. The next course dates for 2014 are as follows... Module One: 21-22 May Module Two: 24-25 June Click here for further details and book your place(s) now

Fascinating TED Talk on Neuroscience  Published 2/14/2014 in Author Vievolve

Beware 'Neuro Bunk'...

One of the most important aspects of our approach to NLP over the years, has been to study the scientific background to its tools and concepts, and incorporate this into the way we present its practical applications and relevance - particularly in a business context. Now it seems that  'NLP and Neuroscience' has become the latest 'thing' - and while we welcome this in principle, we have also been concerned that because it is 'fashionable' it may be treated in an over-simplified and superficial manner, in much the same way that the potential value of NLP itself has been diluted over the years because of poor practise. Which is why we were so interested to see this TED Talk from Neuroscientist Molly Crockett, which suggests taking the same cautious view of the populist approach...  

Diploma in NLP for Dietitians  Published 12/18/2013 in Author Vievolve

... A new and innovative workshop for incorporating behaviour change strategies into patient care

Skills in behaviour change underpin dietary  compliance, yet do you ever find...
  •  You have a sense that there is something going on beyond the patient’s obvious presenting symptoms?
  • Despite ’agreement’ and your best efforts, patients just don’t change their behaviour or follow your advice?
  • You experience a lack of confidence in dealing with patients’ emotional issues, leaving you unsure what to do next?
This four-day (2+2 days) workshop focuses on the importance of the overall relationship between the dietitian and the patient. It concentrates on the inter-personal skills and levels of self-awareness that differentiate true exemplars in the field of human communication, understanding and influence. In particular it provides skilled dietitians with additional tools to enhance their overall effectiveness through incorporating advanced ‘people skills’.

Overall Outcomes

As a result of attending this workshop, you will...
  • Have identified the keys to increasing effectiveness by working with the whole  patient relationship
  • Have identified the so-called ‘filters’ in our language that give insights into how a patient is thinking, what they will pay attention to, and what they will ignore.
  • Understand how your own language influences the patient’s response.
  • Have more choice over your own emotional ‘state’ - in particular how to set the most  appropriate state for any patient intervention.
  • Have developed the skills of matching, pacing and leading to increase subtle  indirect influence.
  • Understand the impact of your language on the patient’s emotional state. In  particular being aware of the most emotionally charged words and the reactions these may (often unintentionally) invoke in the patient
  • Know how to ask the really challenging questions that will get to the root cause of the presenting issue.
  • Develop confidence in your natural intuitive skills and know how to use it to  increase the depth of rapport and understanding of the patient’s situation & needs.
  • Be able to identify someone’s deeper ‘values systems’ and the impact these have on their attitude and behaviour
  • Be able to work with anchoring techniques to help people develop an alternative response to an existing adverse stimulus or situation
  • Have strategies for protecting yourself when exposed to a patient’s emotional ‘baggage’ on a regular basis, and to help the patient develop new methods of  dealing with their  issues.

Outline Content

Module One (2 days)
Key principles and concepts for the programme
  • Introduction to Workshop
  • Background and origins of NLP, as well as   common ‘myths’.
  • Outline of ways in which advances in neuroscience are adding scientific credibility to NLP concepts
Increasing influence and impact
  • Recognising your own and other peoples’ preferences in communication and thinking style and adapting your  approach to meet their needs.
Achieving desired outcomes
  • Defining the result you want from any interaction (short & long-term) and establishing criteria for success
  • Focusing the patient’s attention on what they do want, rather than what they have or don’t want.
Increasing Influence through rapport
  • Establishing and maintaining high level rapport, especially when it does not occur naturally
Increasing precision and  effectiveness of language
  • Getting beyond the presenting symptoms of a problem or situation in order that a resolution can be achieved more quickly
Logical levels of thinking     and change
  • Identifying at what level (or levels) a particular intervention has to be pitched for it to be sustainable over time
  Module Two (2 days)   
Review of learning
  • Review of experiences between modules and questions arising
Using your brain for change
  • Taking control of your own mind and ways of thinking
Using empowering beliefs to increase effectiveness
  • Exploring generic ‘beliefs’ held by people with highly developed influencing skills, in order to increase your own flexibility of thinking and behaviour
Gaining a deeper              understanding of people   and their values
  • Exploring how values affect our thoughts and actions, and using deeper drivers and values to increase influence.
Taking multiple                perspectives
  • Making sense of apparently irrational or unreasonable behaviours and creating more choice of action
Choosing the most effective emotional state
  • Developing your ability to change your response to  something (or someone) negative
  • Coaching the patient in gaining access to the emotional state that will be most helpful to their progress.
Changing a “No” into a “Yes”
  • Understanding apparent resistance to suggestions or advice, and developing questions that are more likely to unlock an apparent stalemate.

This workshop contributes to your CPD points and successful completion of all four days will lead to a Diploma in Neuro  Linguistic Programming (NLP) certified by the International NLP Trainers Association (INLPTA) and the European Community for NLP (ECNLP)

Workshop Style and Approach

Our aim is to create a learning environment which is both challenging and supportive to participants.  Each session is highly practical in nature, fully interactive, and tailored to meet the needs and interests of the group. This type of workshop is most effective when there is flexibility to respond to participants’ needs and individual issues as they arise, rather than following a rigid agenda.  Therefore, while there are definitive overall  outcomes that we work towards, the route we take  throughout the workshop may vary  according to participant  requirements. Unlike the vast majority of  providers, we constantly explore the scientific basis and background to the NLP tools we introduce, and are therefore in a unique position to explain why it works in the way that it does.

Venue, Dates and Cost

Location:   To be confirmed Dates:        We are currently planning the next course for Autumn/Winter 2014 Cost:           £540 +vat for full certification course     £300 +vat for Module 1 only.

Contact us NOW for further information and to register your interest

  Vievolve  are pleased to present this course in association with Azmina Govindji  who is both an award-winning Registered Dietitian and best-selling author.  In her unique style, she takes evidence-based nutrition and translates it into language the consumer can understand. Azmina is a qualified NLP Master Practitioner and will provide insights on which NLP tools have been particularly useful  in her practice. She will also be available informally to support delegates who wish to use social media platforms to engage in  conversations with the public, healthcare professionals and the press.        

Key Skills and Attributes in 21st Century Leadership  Published 7/10/2013 in Author Vievolve

Developing Today's Leaders

Life as a leader of a team/organisation can be an isolated place – you are expected to have all the answers, and yet opportunities to review and develop your leadership skills can be scarce and the likelihood of receiving useful feedback is often not high Our approach to leadership development recognises that many of the assumptions and beliefs people hold about leaders and leadership are either wrong, or out of date.  For example, the idea that all leaders are charismatic extroverts has been shown to be false. For that reason our Leadership Programmes look at the ways leadership styles and methodologies have changed over the years and, in particular, how the problems and opportunities facing tomorrow’s leaders might be addressed successfully. Our experience of working with successful clients from both government and private sectors, together with analysis of the best of academic research has led us to identify a number of key factors that seem to determine the most effective leadership attributes:
  • The “best” leadership style is context dependent. The leader must be able to adapt his or her style to suit the opportunities and pressures as they arise.
  • Exemplary leaders combine the ability to define a future vision and strategy with the listening and communication skills necessary to engage and motivate those who will deliver it. Interpersonal and listening skills related to the Emotional Intelligence (EQ) of the leaders are becoming progressively more important as the need to ensure engagement and commitment of staff increases.
  • As with so many other areas, the balancing of advocacy with enquiry requires each leader to know where she or he stands personally. If there is a strong preference one way or the other, they will require practice to ensure that when they are using the other approach that they are “congruent”. In other words, their words, tone and body language and values systems are all aligned.
  • Self-awareness and the ability to prioritise, especially when under pressure, are very important as they have a direct effect on personal stress levels, work/life balance and overall effectiveness.
  • The skill and courage to hold people accountable can be one of the most challenging characteristics to uphold, especially when it runs counter to prevailing culture.
  • The willingness and ability to coach members of the team is of high value, especially when performance improvement is required.
  • Leaders need to be “authentic” (have undisputed credibility) – this often means that they are willing to show vulnerability where appropriate and are transparent in their dealings. In a comprehensive survey first published in 1993 conducted in the USA, the four most important leadership characteristics were: Honesty, Forward Looking, Inspiring and Competent.   This means that in many cases a fundamental shift in attitudes and approach will be necessary to maximise future potential.

Interview with Ian Ross by Roman Braun of ECNLP  Published 4/2/2013 in Author Vievolve

Hear Ian demonstrate his highly effective model for conflict resolution...

In an interview with Roman Braun of ECNLP,  Ian explains his approach to conflict situations and talks through a live example with Roman.  In doing so, he facilitates Roman to new insights and outcomes for resolving what had been an intractable and challenging situation. Listen to the interview here (ECNLP Interview) which lasts about 40 mins.   While listening you'll also find it helpful to look at the model itself and the questioning structure Ian is using, which you will find here  As you'll discover, the approach demonstrated here is one that can be used in any conflict situation - whether that is between two or more parties, or an internal dilemma you are facing, or even a goal or outcome that you have so far been unable to achieve.  It can also be used in a conversational manner - whether or not the 'client' has any experience of NLP.

Are you ready for 2013?  Published 1/21/2013 in Author Vievolve

A year to focus on increased optimism and business growth.

But are you and your team in the best place you can be for business success - now and in the future?

It’s never been more important to ensure that individuals, teams and organisations have all the skills and tools they need to make the most of every business opportunity.

The key to success is not just what you have to offer your clients – it’s how skilled you are in building strong, sustainable relationships which ensure you are the ‘first choice’ in your customer’s mind.

To do that requires highly effective influencing, communication, selling and negotiation skills.

Even if you feel you have the skills you need –what about your team, colleagues and associates?  How much would they benefit from one (or both) of the following development programmes?

Achieving Business Excellence (Incorporating NLP Diploma Certification) “A workshop for creating outstanding personal and professional results” Effective business relationships are best achieved through a deeper understanding of how other people operate - what motivates them, what’s important to them in a business relationship, and what drives their buying decisions. Even the best qualified and competent professionals will significantly increase their long-term effectiveness through the adoption of the practical tools covered on this course. Click here for full details. Leadership for the Future (incorporating NLP Practitioner Certification)A unique and innovative programme for 21st Century leadership” So much more than a standard NLP Practitioner course, we focus on those critical factors that will have the most impact in today’s business environment, providing the best training available in all these areas...
  • High Performance Coaching
  • Implementing and Leading Change
  • Negotiation Skills
  • Increasing Impact and Influence
  • Innovation and Creativity
  • Personal, Team & Organisational Development
Click here for full details of dates, modules and cost  

INLPTA Coach Practitioner  Published 11/21/2012 in Author Vievolve

New dates for 2013

- An advanced Coaching programme which will give you the skills and confidence to handle any type of coaching situation.  Click here for full details.

TED Talks  Published 11/21/2012 in Author Vievolve

Two new and fascinating TED Talks - ideas that can make a real difference...

Amy Cuddy - Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” -- standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident -- can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.

Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions.

Shawn Achor - The Happy Secret to Better Work We believe that we should work to be happy, but could that be backwards? In this fast-moving and entertaining talk, psychologist Shawn Achor argues that actually happiness inspires productivity. Shawn Achor is the winner of over a dozen distinguished teaching awards at Harvard University, where he delivered lectures on positive psychology in the most popular class at Harvard. He is the CEO of Good Think Inc., a Cambridge-based consulting firm which researches positive outliers -- people who are well above average -- to understand where human potential, success and happiness intersect. Based on his research and 12 years of experience at Harvard, he clearly and humorously describes to organizations how to increase happiness and meaning, raise success rates and profitability, and create positive transformations that ripple into more successful cultures.

TED Talks  Published 4/17/2012 in Author Vievolve

Watch Brene Brown on TED Talks

Her insights on 'Vulnerability' are poignant, informative and highly entertaining.  Watch it here  ...and if you like this, you'll also appreciate her talk on 'Listening to Shame' Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the questions: How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?  

TOP Tips No. 15 - The 'State' is Key  Published 4/17/2012 in Author Vievolve

One of the most important factors in determining a successful outcome for yourself, or when working with others, is the extent to which you are managing your own state of mind and how you are able to influence (positively) the state of others. A state can be defined as a “unique combination of posture, physiology, emotions, and feelings that someone experiences at any one time”.  In other words, any significant emotional state will have its own ‘signature’ – and the ability to recognise the external changes that are indicative of an internal state change will be invaluable – both in choosing and/or managing your own state, or in situations such as coaching, negotiating, selling and leading teams. In NLP there are several formats that focus specifically on state awareness and management. Some that are particularly helpful in bringing about internal state change are… Anchoring a resourceful state Despite being one of the most basic NLP formats this pattern serves as a metaphor for what can be possible using appropriate NLP tools and techniques. It shows the power of choice (selecting the emotional state to which you wish to have access), the possible speed of intervention (most resourceful state exercises do not take any longer than about 15 minutes to be successful) and the sustainability of the intervention over time (one anchor that was originally set for me around 16 years ago still works consistently). Chaining anchors to alter a response to an adverse stimulus that is likely to continue Again, this is a format that is quite basic in its structure but which, when demonstrated to its full potential, does require a high degree of calibration skill in the coach. An experienced facilitator will notice changes in breathing patterns, skin colour and tone (related to blood flow) and brightness in the eyes (increased or decreased moisture content). Causing a state change by using driver sub-modalities When you identify the so-called ‘driver’ sub-modalities it becomes possible to create an almost instant state and behavioural change. Examples include the ‘mapping across’ process to move yourself from one state to another... … From unmotivated to fully motivated … From procrastination to action … From confusion to understanding (If you’re not familiar with any of these NLP formats and would like further details, do get in touch and we’ll be happy to help) Calibrating and influencing another’s emotional state When influencing the states of others it’s important to remember...

  • That tension is contagious
  • To consider what state is most appropriate for the intervention
  • To set your own state first … choose to let go of tension rather than “relax”
  • To be congruent
  • To pay attention to ideomotor signals (i.e. small, physical movements which are outside of conscious awareness – e.g. an ‘odd looking’ sideways twitch of a finger)
There are certain key things to pay attention to when noticing (or calibrating) changes in someone’s state...
Breathing changes Deep sighs Pupil dilation / restriction
Changes in blink rate Eyelid changes / closure Skin colour differences
Changes in muscle tension Moisture in eyes Vocal tonality or speed changes
  One thing to bear in mind is that noticing changes in state will not necessarily tell you ‘what’ someone is thinking but it will certainly let you know that something is different.  For example, if you have accurately calibrated someone in a relaxed or calm state, and something happens to change that – you then have a set of criteria from which you can assess their return to that state in response to some kind of intervention from you.

No. 14 - NLP Tools for Common Issues  Published 4/16/2012 in Author Vievolve

A question was put to us recently, asking if it would be possible to produce an NLP matrix, showing how all the various NLP tools and formats relate to each other and which is best to use under what circumstances. It’s a request that has been made before, and indeed we have made valiant attempts to put something together, but it has always proved to be far too complex a thing to do in any meaningful way. However, it did get me thinking about common issues or scenarios which people have discussed with us over the years, and how some tips for dealing with these recurring themes might be useful.  So here are a few situations which many people seem to be faced with to some degree, or at some time, followed by some ideas on NLP tools which can be helpful... Scenario 1: You are trying to motivate someone to action and/or encourage them to consider future options and possibilities.  But they are firmly entrenched in the present (or problem) state – constantly pointing out the glitches in your plan, what won’t work and why. NLP Options:

  • Match and pace their ‘moving away from’ language before beginning to lead them into ‘future’ thinking.
  •  Covertly test their willingness to do this by first checking the level of rapport that exists between you – for example after matching and pacing their key verbal and non-verbal patterns, check that they then give indications of following you if you attempt to ‘lead’ some aspect of that.
  • If they have a very strong ‘moving away’ from motivation (and if there is sufficient rapport) play that strategy back to them by creating an even worse scenario that may occur if they stay where they are.  The key insight in this instance is that they must be getting something of significant benefit to them out of maintaining what would otherwise seem like an untenable position.
  • Analyse what hidden Value is driving their current behaviour and see if you can create another mechanism for them to get that need met but without the old attitude or behaviour. Easy to say, not so easy to do.
Scenario 2: There is someone in your life that you find particularly challenging.  Perhaps there is a ‘personality clash’ within the team, or a person whose behaviour is ‘difficult’ and constantly causes problems.  Nevertheless, they will continue to be in your life and you have to find a way of working with them in order that the necessary outcomes can be achieved. NLP Options:
  • Create a chained anchor in yourself to create an alternative response that is positive for you.
  • Apply the idea of ‘unconscious positive intention’ to the situation. In simple language “What learning is available to me in being exposed to this particular characteristic in this way?” Remember that this insight does not have to be true but must fit all the facts. If it does, and you then act as if it is true, you should get a major positive shift in the relationship.
  • The leverage point in this situation is that the only part of the system over which you have total control is you, so ...
    • What is the characteristic(s) of the other person you find most ‘difficult’?  Apply the presupposition – “What I experience in others is, in some way, an expression of me”.  Reconcile this inside yourself first to accept (or at least manage) it in others.
Scenario 3: You (or perhaps a member of your team) often talk about something you would like to achieve or a goal or target that you would like to accomplish.  However, despite seeming to be fully engaged with the idea, time goes by and no steps are taken to make it happen. NLP Options: This is potentially the most straightforward example so far. The key is that the benefits of not achieving it are currently felt to be greater than would be gained through achievement of the goal. This is often at an unconscious level, so ..
  • Using the Outcome Thinking model, consider –
    • What are the higher level interests of doing X – i.e. what will achieving this outcome do for you?
    • What are the positive by-products of the present state?  - i.e. what do you get (positively) from not doing X?  These benefits must then be present in the desired state to make it truly compelling
Scenario 4: You have asked someone to do something – a request that you think is perfectly reasonable, logical and straightforward.  Even when you repeat the request, or ask it a different way, it’s to no avail.  The other person either gives you a direct “no” or an implied no, by finding ways to defer or ignore the issue. Our usual response is to feel frustration so we need a way of moving beyond that feeling as soon as possible. NLP Options:
  • People’s odd or unusual behaviour is ‘normal’ for them so there must be something in it that is important to them in what they are doing. This ‘something’ will usually be to do with their values.
  • Before your next encounter with them, use the concept of ‘Perceptual Positions Thinking’ to run a Currently Perceived Choice (CPC)* exercise.  This works in the following way...
    • Identify the question he/she thinks they are being asked (their Currently Perceived Choice) – this will be significantly different from the one you are actually asking
    • Stepping into the other person’s shoes.
      • Define all the consequences of saying "yes" to the question they are hearing
      • Define all the consequences of saying "no" to the question they are hearing
    • Rate the consequences as positive or negative – for them
    • It should then be apparent that saying “no” is the obvious choice from their perspective
    • Identify the values that are likely to drive the “yes” and “no” consequences
    • Create a new question, which will stimulate or meet these values and make it more likely that you will get a “yes”
    • The important thing is not to judge this as being ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ – it’s about understanding the situation the way it is and dealing with it on that basis
* For those of you not familiar with it, the CPC is a very simple model created at the Harvard Negotiation Project to deal with any situation where you are getting “No” when you believe you should get “Yes”.

These are just a few ideas of situations you may encounter, and some of the NLP formats you could consider in the circumstances. If you have any other challenging situations for which you would like some suggestions, do let us know.

Presentation on Negotiation/Conflict Resolution  Published 3/27/2012 in Author Vievolve

Last October, Ian presented a session on Negotiation and Conflict Resolution at the 'Towards a Positive Future' Conference, organised by Speech and Language Therapist Janet O'Keefe of Wordswell.  It's an event designed specifically for parents of children with special educational needs and the professionals who support them. View the session here. This summer we will once again be pleased to contribute to this very worthwhile by running group sessions on Influencing and Communication Skills and the Graves Values Model.  Click here for details of the event.

TED Talks  Published 3/2/2012 in Author Admin

Interesting TED Talks by Peter van Uhm "Why I Chose a Gun".

He is the Netherlands' Chief of Defense.  However, as you'll see, that does not mean he is pro-war.  Some fascinating insights - watch it here

No.13 – Survival of the Fittest?  Published 11/3/2011 in Author Admin

"Survival" seems to be an all too familiar theme for many businesses (small or large) these days, and for me the interesting thing is the different strategies people are adopting to deal with the issue.

Obviously the most natural (and sometimes necessary) thing to do in challenging times is to look at ways of reducing costs and eliminating unnecessary expenditure. However, there is also a danger of falling into a pattern of saving and cost cutting which is ultimately counter-productive.

A few days ago I was watching a programme – Undercover Boss USA. This episode followed Steve Joyce, President and CEO of Choice Hotels International one of America‟s largest franchise hotel chains. He spent some time in the largest hotel in the Choice system – a huge complex with 675 rooms. The buildings are 25 years old and until a few years ago were well maintained, and had high occupancy rates. However, in recent years a range of cost cutting measures have been introduced and many public areas have been neglected. The rooms still have the same TV‟s as in 1994, the roof leaks, the pool area needs to be re-surfaced – and they have cut personnel, meaning that there‟s now only one maintenance man to service the whole complex. Not surprisingly business has also dropped off, with customers choosing a newer and more modern alternative. Of course, some renovations would require quite a large investment, but many small, relatively low-cost things were identified, which could make a big difference, and had they have been done earlier, would most probably have reduced the high cost expenditure now needed. Two particular examples were highlighted. The first was the fact that locks on the bedroom doors were so old that guests were often unable to get into their rooms without calling maintenance (not helpful when you get back to the hotel late at night and reception is a 10 minute walk away!). The second was the simple fact that the maintenance golf cart, used to move quickly around the complex, had broken down and not been replaced – meaning that the maintenance man had to go everywhere on foot and service was therefore two or three times slower than it needed to be.

Closer to home, we hear of many organisations that are cutting jobs, meaning that remaining personnel are required to fill the gaps, taking on more responsibility and working longer hours. This may be OK in the short-term, but if it continues (or even escalates) it‟s a situation that leads to increased stress levels, decreased productivity and therefore decreased profits – potentially leading to more cost cutting. It‟s a vicious circle, which can creep up unawares until the tipping point is reached and it all starts to fall apart.

That may all sound a bit depressing, and potentially has an air of inevitability about it. However, there are things that can break the downward spiral. The question is, how can NLP, and so-called „soft-skills‟ in general, help in these situations?

As I'm sure you're aware soft skills are often perceived as a "nice to have" when time (and money) permit. However, with the pressures of today's business environment, our experience is that increased attention to these areas (especially those related to Emotional Intelligence), can improve motivation and productivity, and ultimately save time and money.

There are two aspects to consider – what you can do individually (either for yourself or for the people within whom you come into contact) and more broadly within an organisation as a whole.

Individual Actions

The focus here is on increased attention to people, more effective communication (making sure the message is received first time) and resolving disputes and conflicts – or avoiding them in the first place. Strategies for achieving this include...

  • Realising that people do what they do for a reason – once the real issue is defined it may be possible to help them find an alternative way of achieving their undeclared aim.
  • Asking (rather than telling) the staff most directly concerned what to do about a particular problem.
  • Linked with the previous point, being open with teams about your concerns and the possible risks they create and inviting their involvement in resolving them more creatively. This approach is sometimes thought of as being risky but this feeling is usually due to a lack of confidence in the manager him or herself.
  • Paying increased attention to the small non-verbal signals we all give off when we are not fully engaged in, or motivated by, a particular idea ... For example, averted gaze, unconscious hand movements around the mouth and face, shifting in one‟s seat etc. By drawing someone‟s attention to their unconscious feedback it becomes possible to address the underlying issue while everyone is still in the room.

One cautionary note here – accurate calibration without interpretation or projection is crucial in avoiding misinterpretation and misunderstanding.

Organisational Strategies

From this perspective the key is to work towards higher levels of engagement and motivation and consider the savings available through short-term investment for longer term gain. For example...

  • Being rigorous with continually asking what purpose a particular process or procedure fulfils and removing those that add little or nothing to the outputs.
  • Where reworking occurs, check what it is that causes it to be necessary.
  • Examining any proposed budget cut within the frame of “is cutting this ultimately going to cost us more in the long term?” (As with the decision not to replace the maintenance golf cart in the example above).
    • An alternative challenge is “What other possible consequences could there be as a result of doing this?”
  • Increasing the investment in apparently unnecessary training and development programmes that focus on enhancing interpersonal and relationship skills (that‟s the sales pitch!).

I know most companies, large and small, are actively seeking ways to survive through creativity, diversification and innovation. There is also much evidence to show that businesses who expend time and energy in ensuring that staff at all levels feel valued, listened to and involved, are the ones who are most likely to emerge at the top when things improve.

No.12 - “I’ll do it later...”  Published 9/3/2011 in Author Admin

How many times in the last month have you heard someone say (or maybe said yourself) “I don‟t have time to do that now” or “I need more time before I can start that” or “I'll do it later”?

Time is certainly a valuable commodity these days – so is there a secret to having the time you need to meet the deadlines, complete the tasks as well as fitting in leisure time, family time and/or "me" time?

How is it that we find time for some things and not others – what‟s driving that decision? Despite knowing all the theories/good practise with regard to good time management...

‐ Buying a daily planner or a to-do list application for your phone. ‐ Writing yourself notes ‐ Filling out schedules. ‐ Surrounding yourself with instruments to make life more efficient

...these tools alone will not help, because the problem isn't that you are a bad manager of your time – the key is in understanding the beliefs, values and attitudes of mind which are driving the so-called "unwanted" behaviours.

One of the issues that often gets in the way is procrastination - such a pervasive element of the human experience that there are over 600 books for sale promising to snap you out of your bad habits, and this year alone 120 new books on the topic were published.

It's a problem many people admit to, but why is it so hard to defeat? Why is it that we have a tendency to put off what we should or need to do now, in favour of the immediate (short-term) reward of doing something else?

You may tell yourself “I need to start that report – the deadline is next week”... “I should phone that client, it‟s while since I spoke to them”... “I ought to prepare the presentation – it‟s probably going to take longer than I think”

...And yet you decide that before you get started maybe you should check your email, just to get it out of the way... Perhaps you could get the small "easy" tasks done first, so you have clear space to get the big task done... A cup of coffee would probably get you going and get you in the right frame of - it won‟t take a minute to go and get one!

Procrastination is the thief of time, and core to our ability to deal with this is the issue of delayed gratification.

I am not sure this is directly connected, but I am reminded of the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment (1972) This was designed to test the theory of a person‟s ability to delay gratification, and was conducted by Prof. Walter Mischel, at Stanford University, California. He studied a group of four-year-old children, each of whom was given one marshmallow, but promised two on condition that he or she wait twenty minutes, before eating the first marshmallow. Some children were able to wait the twenty minutes, and others were not.

Furthermore, Mischel and his team then studied the developmental progress of each participant child into adolescence, through high-school, college and into adulthood where they accumulated children, mortgages and jobs. They reported that children able to delay gratification (wait) were psychologically better adjusted, more dependable persons, and, as high school students, scored significantly greater grades.

A key learning from this research is that children who were able to overcome their desire for short-term reward in favour of a better outcome later were not more clever than the other children, nor were they less gluttonous. They just had a better grasp of how to trick themselves into doing what was best for them. They watched the wall instead of looking at the food. They tapped their feet instead of smelling the confection. The wait was torture for all, but some knew it was going to be impossible to just sit there and stare at the delicious, gigantic marshmallow without giving in. Some were better at devising schemes for avoiding their own weak wills, and years later, as adults, they seemed to be able to use that power to their advantage.

The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment indicates that good impulse control might be psychologically important for academic achievement and for success in adult life. Research also indicates that animals do not defer gratification but instead apply something called “hyperbolic discounting”. So, the intellectual problem of delayed gratification is philosophically fundamental to human nature. What started as an experiment about delayed gratification has now, decades later, yielded a far more interesting set of revelations about meta-cognition – thinking about thinking.

Procrastination is all about choosing want over should. Given two similar rewards, humans show a preference for one that arrives sooner rather than later. We are said to discount the value of the later reward, by a factor that increases with the length of the delay.

For instance, when offered the choice between £500 now and £1000 a year from now, many people will choose the immediate £500. However, given the choice between £500 in five years or £1000 in six years almost everyone will choose £1000 in six years, even though that is the same choice seen at five years' greater distance.

A being of pure logic would think "more is more" and pick the higher amount every time, but we aren't beings of pure logic. Faced with two possible rewards, we are more likely to take the one which we can enjoy now over one we will enjoy later – even if the later reward is far greater.

So what is the key to developing the skill of "deferred gratification" – doing the "should" first and the "want" later?

The first thing is to become aware of what you‟re doing as you‟re doing it – particularly in terms of your inner dialogue and the nature of the internal negotiation you are having with yourself. Next time you hear yourself say something like “I really should get "X" done, but maybe I'll just do "Y" first”... ask yourself...

“What stops me doing X right now?” “What would I get (positively) from doing X?” “What do I get out of doing Y first?” “What reward can I give myself for doing X first which is even more appealing than choosing to do Y first?”

There are many positive effects of adopting the concept of deferred gratification – you'll get more done, faster, more effectively – and get much more satisfaction from the "reward".....Enjoy!

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